Most people HATE the idea of failing and becoming a failure.
They avoid it like the plague.
To them, it is something akin to a small town or city they should always avoid.
What most people don’t realize is that they have the whole thing wrong. They just don’t get it. If and when they become a ‘failure’, they end up sulking and getting depressed instead of being rational about it.
I know I did.
Whenever I failed at something, I would get really upset and worked up about it. I never saw things rationally.
As a result, it affected every part of my life, from productivity to relationships.
Therefore, if you are someone who has a dire fear of failure, fret not because you have it all wrong. You are too deep in the psychological gutter to see the truth.
You don’t get it.
You simply don’t understand what’s going on because your thinking is all messed up. That’s all.
Once you realize what’s going on, your entire perspective on things will completely change…
…Because here’s the truth about failure:
IT DOES NOT EXIST.
IT IS SIMPLY IMPOSSIBLE.
And I don’t say this in a motivational sense. I say this in a PRACTICAL and REALISTIC sense.
Failure is simply impossible and doesn’t exist.
Well, think about it. Or rather, the PROCESS of achieving something.
Think of how it works.
Whenever you want to get something done, you’ll start out at point A and only with a lot of effort, you’ll reach ‘success’ a.k.a point B. It isn’t a case of ‘wanting’ to get something and then everything that you desire will ‘appear’ before your eyes. That’s utterly IMPOSSIBLE. On the contrary, the truth is that you’ll have to WORK for it. A LOT.
In addition to the work, you’ll need to understand that it isn’t a smooth journey either. More often than not, you’ll have to overcome one obstacle after another.
During this process of working and overcoming obstacles, what happens is that for a VERY long time, you won’t get what you are working for. Your day will be more or less very uneventful in the sense that you will never get ‘instant success’. On the contrary, you’ll just keep fruitlessly working and working and then some more for a very long time.
If you think about what would happen if you stopped working midway, you’ll realize that you’ve just become a so-called ‘failure’.
I guess this is the reason they tell you to ‘never give up’, because doing so will make you stop working midway of whatever you were working on.
That’s all there is to it.
That’s all there ever was and ever will be.
There is just ONE other possibility beyond this.
Whenever you are working towards a goal and DON’T put in the required work, you’ll find out that you won’t be able to get what you are aiming at.
For example, if you want a high score in your exam and don’t bother to study, then you will inevitably end up getting a bad score and perhaps even ‘failing’.
Would that count as a failure? Failure to prepare perhaps, but most certainly not at the goal itself. It cannot be considered a failure because you never tried to begin with. You did it for the heck of it and therefore it doesn’t count.
I don’t know ANYONE who has ‘failed’ DESPITE putting the required amount of work.
Those who failed despite a lot of effort were simply working on something that wasn’t attainable by ANYBODY! That’s it.
So, if you look at it from THIS point of view, you’ll realize one of two things about ‘failure’:
- You QUIT in the middle.
- You DID NOT put the effort to begin with.
Either way, you are not a failure.
On the contrary, it reflects on OTHER things like a lack of self-discipline.
In all, don’t get all worked up that you have ‘failed’ and are a ‘failure’.
There is no such thing.
YOU EITHER QUIT IN THE MIDDLE OR DIDN’T PUT IN THE NECESSARY EFFORT.
THEN AGAIN MAYBE IT’S BOTH.
FAILING IS IMPOSSIBLE AND FAILURE DOESN’T EXIST.